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together in supporting  the parents as </B><B><U>they</U></B><B> instruct  their own children,  not to work together in instructing  the children.  To do the latter would be what Hillary Clinton prescribed in her socialistic book, "It takes a Village." </B></div> <div> <B> "Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it."  Proverb 22:6</B></div> <div> <B>"Whom will he teach knowledge? And whom will he make to understand the message? Those just weaned from milk? Those just drawn from the breasts? For precept must be upon precept, precept upon precept, Line upon line, line upon line, Here a little, there a little."</B></div> <div> <B>Isaiah 28:9-10</B></div> <bR> <bR> <bR> <bR> <div> <B>     2.  We must be shielding them from the evils of this world, while they are young, through Christian school, home school, or a very combative daily scripture defending approach to the state schools.</B></div> <div> <B>Proverbs 22:6,  Isaiah 28:9-10</B></div> <bR> <div> <B>Allow me to clarify.  In this point, I mention the evils of this world and suggest three ways to shield your children from them.  All three ways are alternative methods to public schooling.  I was assuming that this would allow the reader to surmise that the evils I refer to are those one would be exposed to in a State School.  I will list a few of them to help you be clear;  Humanism and New Age teaching, evolution, homosexuality, sexual promiscuity and teenage birth control, etc. To expose our children to eight hours a day of negative influence in an effort to provide them an opportunity to witness to their unsaved classmates and teachers, is not only an utter failure in fulfilling our calling as parents to train up our children in the way that they should go, but is the equivalent of sending our lambs into a den of wolves to try to win converts!</B></div> <div> <B> "Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it."  Proverb 22:6</B></div> <div> <B>"Whom will he teach knowledge? And whom will he make to understand the message? Those just weaned from milk? Those just drawn from the breasts? For precept must be upon precept, precept upon precept, Line upon line, line upon line, Here a little, there a little."</B></div> <div> <B>Isaiah 28:9-10</B></div> <bR> <bR> <div> <B>3.  We must not be pushing or even encouraging  our children in school sports or other extra curricular activities.  These activities draw children away from the family unit and instill in them an independence not conducive to Godly adulthood, especially for girls.</B></div> <bR> <div> <B> The point of sharing these beliefs  was to find and communicate with families who  share our convictions, not to put down those who did not.  The reasoning behind my negativity towards these activities is the strain they so often place on the family home.  Teen age schedules can be a strong force in tearing apart the family bond.  Sports Practice every evening, committees and play practices on various nights.  Home is no longer the base for kids, but rather it is just a place to rest and change clothes in preparation for their more important events at school and elsewhere.   Many kids are never at the table for supper because they don't get home from their activities until 6:30pm or later and then they have to do their homework.  Granted, when our children are preteens, their sports schedule requirements are not nearly as demanding as that of a teenager, but when we encourage them to participate at this young age, it generally instills in them a desire to continue though their teenage years.  One could paint a Rockwell portrait of a whole family sitting in the grandstand cheering on their daughter at a sporting event, or one could paint a warm and cozy home with coats and hats hung by the door after school, some children helping Mom in the kitchen to prepare supper, while dad sits at the table helping their siblings finish their homework. Bible by dads side ready to read </B><B>after meal time </B><B>to the family, of which no one is missing.  The evening family meal is probably one of the single most important ingredients to having a healthy Godly household.</B></div> <bR> <bR> <div> <B>4.  We must not push our children to be popular.  This crowd is generally promiscuous and prone to non-virtuous behavior.  This makes for shallow instability, which generally follows through to </B><FONT SIZE="3" COLOR="#FFCC80" FACE="Verdana" ><B>adulthood. </B></FONT><FONT SIZE="3" COLOR="#0099FF" FACE="Verdana" ><B> </B></FONT></div> <bR> <div> <B>Here is how you could push your children to be popular.  Make sure they are always on the cutting edge of what clothing style is popular, buy them $120. sneakers, encourage and transport them to every dance and activity, make sure that you never deny them there desires, whether in clothing, activity, or friends.  Do not burden them with old fashion rules and curfews.   I have seen a lot of parents participate in this destructive behavior.</B></div> <bR> <bR> <div> <B>5.  We must not encourage our daughters to pursue a higher education beyond high school.  This to, instills in girls an independence and self sufficiency which works head on against Gods design of the submissive, dependent helpmate wife.  To prepare your daughters for a fall back career in case their marriage fails is an invitation to the likelihood of it happening.</B></div> <div> <B>Psalm 128:3,  Proverbs 14:1,  Proverbs 7:10,11</B></div> <bR> <div> <B> </B><FONT SIZE="3" COLOR="#0099FF" FACE="Verdana" ><B> I don't even know where to begin in trying to persuade someone on the virtues of children having a stay at home mom and husbands having a content, full time wife who takes pride in being a homemaker.  Psalm 128:3 says "Your wife shall be like a fruitful vine in the very heart of your house."  If the wife only works before the children are born and after they are of school age there is still  potential for marital strain through her relationships with male coworkers and other influences.  Once a career and feeling of independence are established in a wife, I think it is much more difficult for her to be content in her home to raise the children God has given her.  Being a stay at home Mom is the greatest gift you can give to your children.   There is no comparison to the fruits a child receives from having their Mom at home to anything their Mom's income could provide them.  How can we be so callous towards our grandchildren.  As parents continually change from traditional views on this subject and encourage their daughters to be the opposite of what their mothers and grandmothers were, it reminds me of a bumper sticker I have seen that says "Be glad Your Mom wasn't pro-choice".   To equip our daughters to provide for themselves in case of divorce, is the equivalent of giving our children birth control in case they sin in fornication, or giving them sterile needles in case they fall into the sin of drug use.  The Bible is clear in stating that a girls heart is to be under the authority of a man, be that her husband or her father.  If a daughter never marries, she should stay under the authority of her father, if she marries and then divorces or is widowed, she again, is to be under the authority and care of her father.  If her father is incapable for any reason, she is to be under the authority of the church.  God help us to find churches that fulfill their calling to care for the widows and orphans.</B></FONT></div> <div> <B>"Your wife shall be like a fruitful vine</B></div> <div> <B>In the very heart of your house,</B></div> <div> <B>Your children like olive plants</B></div> <div> <B>All around your table."</B></div> <div> <B>Psalm 128:3</B></div> <div> <B>"The wise woman builds her house, </B></div> <div> <B>but the foolish pulls it down with her hands."</B></div> <div> <B>Proverbs 14:1</B></div> <div> <B>"And there a woman met him,</B></div> <div> <B>With the attire of a harlot, and a crafty heart.</B></div> <div> <B>She was loud and rebellious, </B></div> <div> <B>Her feet would not stay at home"</B></div> <div> <B>Proverbs7:10-11</B></div> <bR> <div> <B>6.  We must not allow our daughters to work outside the home for the reasons stated in number five, but rather train them to do all that is domestic within our home, so that they may be fully prepared to care for their future husbands’ homes.</B></div> <div> <B>I Timothy 5:14</B></div> <bR> <div> <B>All I can say is that I feel for the above reasons that it is not a good idea for our daughters.  There are exceptions to every rule but I am not searching for them.</B></div> <div> <B>"Therefore I desire that the younger widows marry, bear children, manage the house, give no opportunity to the adversary to speak reproachfully."</B></div> <div> <B>1Timothy 5:14  </B></div> <bR> <bR> <div> <B>7.  Your sons should be made to work faithfully in helping to maintain your home.  When they come of age, they should be strongly encouraged and assisted in finding a job outside the home.  This is excellent training for responsible adulthood. </B></div> <bR> <div> <B>This is really not up for debate.  If any one has an argument against this point, and I can't imagine what it would be, please contact me.</B></div> <bR> <bR> <div> <B>8.  You must not be enslaved to your children.  Constantly running them to every activity and buying them everything they think they need to have is not conducive to building a sense of responsibility in them.  Children must be taught to serve their parents rather then having the idea that their parents exist only to serve them.  </B></div> <div> <B>Luke 15:29,  I Timothy 3:4,  Leviticus 19:3,  Malachi 1:6,  Proverbs 23:22</B></div> <bR> <div> <B>  The term, to serve ones parents is, is not unbiblical.  Leviticus 19:3- Every one of you shall revere his mother and his father...)  There is the element that our children need to learn to help each other, too.  I would not want to defend parents who treat their children as a nuisance.  Raising  our children is one of the highest responsibilities that God will ever give to us, and we should commit to the task with mind, body and soul, but a parent can be willing to lay down his life for his child without being enslaved to that child's whims and wishes.</B></div> <div> <B>"So he answered and said to his father, 'Lo, these many years I have been serving you; I never transgressed your commandment at any time; and yet you never gave me a young goat, that I might make merry with my friends."</B></div> <div> <B>Luke 15:29</B></div> <bR> <div> <B>"one who rules his own house well, having his children in submisssion with all reverence"</B></div> <div> <B>1 Timothy 3:4 </B></div> <div> <B>"A son honers his father,</B></div> <div> <B>And a servant his master.</B></div> <div> <B>If then I am the father,</B></div> <div> <B>Where is my honor? </B></div> <div> <B>And if I am a master,</B></div> <div> <B>Where is my reverence?</B></div> <div> <B>Says the Lord of hosts </B></div> <div> <B>To you priests who despise My name.</B></div> <div> <B>Yet you say, 'In what way have we despised Your name?'</B></div> <div> <B>Malachi 1:6</B></div> <div> <B>"Listen to your father who begot you,</B></div> <div> <B>And do not despise your mother when she is old."</B></div> <div> <B>Proverbs 23:22</B></div> <bR> <bR> <div> <B>9.  We must be teaching our children the importance of being under the preaching of God's Word and fellowshipping with like minded believers.  We must sit together as a family to worship and not go seven different directions upon entering the church.  Our children must be taught fear and reverence for God's house. If at all possible, avoid a church where it is common place for parishioners to sip coffee during worship or purchase soda from a machine on the church grounds.  It is also beneficial to avoid churches with gyms and recreation halls that are striving to be more of a community center then a place of worship.  These vices instill in children a casual attitude towards a most sacred, formal privilege.</B></div> <bR> <bR> <div> <B>This is kind of a personal pet peeve with me against our own church.  If your church is still a place of reverence for God, count your blessings.  Churches like yours are getting very rare!  There is great value, I believe, in the family sitting together in worship service.  The children learn to sit and behave and they associate worship with the family unit.  As far as age appropriate teaching in church, this is a task that is the responsibility of the parents at home. </B></div> <bR> <bR> <div> <B>10.  We must teach our children the importance of the family unit.  This can be done through daily meal times together away from the television or radio.  Frequent family trips and activities are very beneficial.  We must discourage constant visitors and visits to others to help in keeping the children content in our home.  Content children grow up to be content adults.</B></div> <bR> <div> <B> We do want to teach our children the value of fellowship in our home and the blessings of practicing hospitality, but we do not want a string of  constant visitors which would never allow our family unit to be one.   </B></div> <bR> <bR> <div> <B>11.  We must not allow our children who have reached puberty, to befriend members of the opposite sex in anything more than a most casual manner.  Although this seems to be the trend today, it is unnatural and not conducive in raising them to be discreet non-flirtatious adults. </B></div> <div> <B> </B></div> <div> <B> </B><FONT SIZE="3" COLOR="#0099FF" FACE="Verdana" ><B>  We all had male and female friends growing up, but there seems to be something different happening today which to me is quite disturbing and unnatural.   Guys and girls are the closest of friends, sitting on each others laps, hanging all over each other, and yet have no inclination towards  romantic intentions.  This is a thing I do not understand.  When I was a teen 20 years ago,  I was quite normal in my obsession  with girls.  If a girl would have hung on my shoulders or sat on my lap, my thoughts would not have been pure.  Has the male drive changed?     I believe that these same principals apply to adults.  My wife and my daughters are the only woman with whom I am very close.  My mother and sisters I am somewhat close.  To others I am polite, but not chummy.</B></FONT></div> <bR> <bR> <div> <B>12.  We must not allow our children to date before they are of the age and maturity at which we  would allow them to marry.  There is no scriptural basis for casual dating and it is a strong negative force in a young person's quest for Godly purity.</B></div> <bR> <div> <B> Unfortunately, society no longer binds itself to Gods timing which He makes clear to us in nature itself.  The accepted age by American standards I believe is around 18 to 21 therefore that would be the age I would hope to allow my children to begin considering these issues.  We do not believe in the traditional dating concept.  If a boy wishes to pursue one of our daughters  and she is interested, he will have to come and see her mother and myself first and we will prayerfully determine if he has the potential to be a Godly husband for her.  We would hope to have the young mans parents involved in the decision also.  When and if all six concerned parties are in agreeance, then they can begin a courtship under careful supervision.  This is not something done to the resentment of our children, but rather a practice which they accept and appreciate because they have been taught it from their early youth.</B></div> <bR> <bR> <div> <B>13.  We must have our children fully trained and ready to have their own household shortly after puberty.  While society frowns on young marriage and it may not be possible to arrange, it still behooves us to work within Gods timetable in the training of our children.</B></div> <bR> <div> <B>We are working diligently towards this goal and God has been blessing it greatly.</B></div> <bR> <bR> <div> <B>14.  We as parents must be setting a Godly example for our children. The husband and father must have a strong work ethic and authority in the home.  He must be loving and considerate of his wife and children and faithful in the reading and teaching of the Holy Scriptures to his family.  The wife and mother must be content in the home, faithful in her domestic duties, and a constant support and encouragement to the children's father.  She must not be prone to gossip and must not while away the hours of the day with mindless chatter on the telephone.</B></div> <div> <B>Isaiah 32:9,  I Timothy 3:11,  I Timothy 5:13</B></div> <bR> <div> <B>Proverbs 31:27-  "She watches over the ways of her household, and does not </B><B><U>eat the bread of idleness</U></B><B>"</B></div> <div> <B>Our example to our children is probably the most influential thing they will ever learn from us.  We need to guard our words and actions, the children are watching us carefully.</B></div> <div> <B>"Rise up, you women who are at ease,</B></div> <div> <B>Hear my voice;</B></div> <div> <B>You complacent daughters,</B></div> <div> <B>Give ear to my speech."</B></div> <div> <B>Isaiah 32:9</B></div> <div> <B>"Likewise, their wives must be reverent, not slanderers, temperate, faithful in all things."</B></div> <div> <B>I Timothy 3:11</B></div> <div> <B>"And besides they learn to be idle, wandering about from house to house, and not only idle but gossips and busybodies, saying things which they ought not."</B></div> <div> <B>I Timothy 5:13</B></div> <bR> <bR> <div> <B>15.  We must teach our children respect for their parents and elders.  It is not impersonal for our children to refer to their parents as sir and ma'am especially when being corrected.  Children must always address their elders by their title meaning Aunt, Uncle, Grandpa, Grandma, or Mr. or Mrs.  If our children are taught to respect their elders they will have the foresight and wisdom to teach their own children these Godly virtues.</B></div> <div> <B> </B></div> <div> <B>  </B><FONT SIZE="3" COLOR="#0099FF" FACE="Verdana" ><B>It is right and proper for children to respect their parents and all those that stand in a position of authority over them, either by age, familial relation or otherwise.  </B></FONT></div> <div> <B>Just as our marriage's are a reflection of the relationship between Christ and the church, so should our children and parent relationship be a reflection of that of our Father in Heaven and we His children.  There are times when we will play and be silly and they will call us mommy and daddy.  There are other times when they know the conversation is serious and it is not a time for frivolity and they say yes sir and yes ma'am.  Respect for elders has far reaching positive effects in many areas of our children's lives.  Not to mention it honors the elders who have earned that respect ordained by Scripture.</B></div> <bR> <bR> <div> <B>16.  We must not allow our children to be indoctrinated with the fallacies of political correctness.  Extreme environmentalism, multiculturalism, complete equality of gender and culture , and forced fairness are all clever disguises for complete government control and the loss of our individual freedoms.</B></div> <div> <B>I Corinthians 11:3,  I Timothy 2:11,12,  Ephesians 5:22-24,  I Peter 3:7,  Titus 2:4,5,  Genesis 3:16,  I Corinthians 11:7,  Genesis 2:18-23</B></div> <bR> <div> <B>Everyone is quick to sarcastically question me on which gender is to be  held in greater deference if they are not equal.  To which I respond, after shielding my face, the male gender of course. 1Corinthians 11:3. 1 Timothy 2:11,12.  Ephesians 5:22-24. Titus 2:5. I am aware that this is a hard pill to swallow for many today, but the cold hard fact is that in Genesis 3:16 God pronounces that the females desire would be for the male, and that he would rule over her. Even before that, from creation itself, God made the male gender for His own glory (1 Corinthians 11:7) and then determined that the male gender needed companionship and a helpmate.  From out of the male God made the female.  Genesis 2:18-23.  None of this is meant to imply that the female gender has less value than the male, but only that the female is in submission to the male.  A girl can not do everything a boy can do and a boy can certainly not do everything that a girl can.  Each have their own roles and calling from their Creator.  I am sure that there are plenty of modern liberal seminary professors who have carefully found ways to interpret these texts to mean exactly the opposite of what I have stated above and you may agree with them.  I am not here to argue, but rather to simply clarify my position. </B></div> <div> <B>  In regards to the culture equality comment, what I am eluding to is that in African schools, African history is taught as a major, all other cultures as a minor.  It is the same in England, and China, and Brazil, etc.  Only in America is our nations history looked down upon and constantly being rewritten.  The European white founders of our nation are portrayed as the enemy of all that is  fair and good in this world.  When one lives in America by legal citizenship, that person is an American.  There are not to be Afro-Americans, Mexican-Americans, or any other blend of citizenship.  We are a generous nation who opens our arms to immigrants, but those immigrants, in seeking citizenship in our nation, must acknowledge the prominence of this race and  culture within our nations boarders.  A persons value is not based upon where he is from, but rather how loyal he is to the place where he is.  One can and should be proud of his heritage, but always loyal to his citizenship.</B></div> <div> <B>"But I want you to know that the head of every man is Christ, the head of woman is man, and the head of Christ is God."</B></div> <div> <B>I Corinthians 11:3</B></div> <div> <B>"Let a woman learn in silence with all submission. And I do not permit a woman to teach or to have authority over a man, but to be in silence."</B></div> <div> <B>1 Timothy 2:11,12</B></div> <div> <B>"Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the savior of the body. Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything."</B></div> <div> <B>Ephesians 5:22-24</B></div> <div> <B>"Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered."</B></div> <div> <B>I Peter 3:7</B></div> <div> <B>"That they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed."</B></div> <div> <B>Titus 2:4,5</B></div> <div> <B>To the woman he said,</B></div> <div> <B>"I will greatly multiply your sorrow and your conception;</B></div> <div> <B>In pain you shall bring forth children;</B></div> <div> <B>Your desire shall be for your husband,</B></div> <div> <B>and he shall rule over you." </B></div> <div> <B>Genesis 3:16</B></div> <div> <B>"For a man indeed ought not to cover his head, since he is the image and the glory of God; but woman is the glory of man."</B></div> <div> <B>I Corinthians 11:7</B></div> <div> <B>And the Lord God said, "It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.  "Out of the ground the Lord God formed every beast of the field adn every bird of the air, and brought them to Adam to see what he would call them.  And whatever Adam called each living creature, that was its name.  So Adam gave names to all cattle, to the birds of the air, and to every beast of the field. But for Adam there was not found a helper comparable to him. And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall on Adam, and he slept; and He took one of his ribs and closed up the flesh in it's place. Then the rib which the Lord God had taken from man he made into a woman, and he brought her to the man.  And Adam said:</B></div> <bR> <div> <B>"This is now bone of my bones</B></div> <div> <B>And flesh of my flesh;</B></div> <div> <B>She shall be called Woman,</B></div> <div> <B>Because she was taken out of Man."</B></div> <div> <B>Genesis 2:18-23</B></div> <bR> <div> <B>17.  We must not allow our daughters to live independently of our family unit, whether because of college or career.  The Scriptures are clear as in Genesis 2:18-24 and I Corinthians 11:3 in mandating a female's position under the authority of a man, be that her father or husband. </B></div> <div> <B>We are</B><B> </B><B>encouraging and training our daughters to be fully mature and responsible adults, but we will never, by Gods grace, encourage them to live on their  own.  This would go against Scripture and nature itself.  From Scripture alone, answer this question, Why did God make woman?  Genesis 2:18-24,  1Corinthians 11:8,9)</B></div> <bR> <div> <B> 18.   Biblical guidelines regarding modesty in dress and hair style are appropriate and if our children are properly sheltered from the negitive influences of the world through television, radio, and public school, they usually are more than content with what ever we, the parents prefer.  </B></div> <div> <B> Ephesians 6:4,  I Timothy 2:9</B></div> <bR> <bR> <div> <B>We really are very concerned with modesty and discretion in these areas and that is what we provide for our children to wear.  </B><B>If we faithfully follow the convictions God has given us in raising our children to be Godly, this probably wont even be an issue, </B><B>but if later in life, this becomes a conflict, we are going to do our best not to get bent out of shape by it.  All these things will pass.</B></div> <bR> <bR> <bR> <div> <B>To wrap this up I would like to say that my wife and I have been married for 15 years.  In that time we have developed a very clear and detailed plan based on our interpretation of Scripture of how we will attempt to raise reasonably well behaved, respectful, God fearing children.  From time to time God will cause new developments to come about that cause us to reevaluate our plan which is an ungoing work.  We are well aware that "nothing ever goes as planed" but we feel it is important to at least have the methods and goals in mind even if circumstances do not allow things to go as we hope.  The 18 points I have written in this "Godly Parents" essay,  which have gotten me in so much trouble with so many people, are sincere and ligitament convictions of our hearts.  The wording , I am told, comes across as very legalistic and separatist.  While we do strive to practice these convictions in our parenting and home life, we are not even close to running a military base here.  Our children have lots of friends, listen to a variety of  music , watch videos on occassion, and we all share tons of fun and silly and exciting times together. We love our children with a passion and enjoy our time together more than anything.  Everyone in our family knows and respects their position and roles in our home, male, female, child, parent, but no one resents it.  </B></div> <div> <B>     We strive daily to teach our children from Scripture and our own parental convictions what we would like to see them do in life, not particulars but basic goals of Godly living and gender roles.  We are very aware that, while the children are most willingly receptive now, they may depart from our hopes and go a completely different direction when they come of age.  If in Gods perfect will, this would happen,  all of our children will have our full support and love in whatever direction they choose.  If any or all of my daughters choose to go to college I will remind them of what their Mother and I have always felt about this issue and then ask, what can I do to help you prepare to go.  I will morally and financially do everything possible to see that they succeed in whatever they decide to do.  My children will not be anxiously waiting until they are 18 to get out from under their Fathers overbearing authority.  I told my eldest daughter that even if she marries a democrat, I will do my best to get along with her new husband.  She, of course, being the wonderful little girl that she is, said she could never marry someone who voted for Al Gore.   I am not as legalistic as I may project myself to be and  I will be as supportive of my children's career endeavors as any father would be in whatever path they choose.  </B></div> <bR> <div> <B>     </B><FONT SIZE="4" COLOR="#CC00CC" FACE="Verdana" >Proverbs 22:6 says "Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it."  We are confident in Gods promise and trust that by His grace, our children will grow to be Godly and responsible adults.</FONT></div> <bR> <DIV ALIGN="LEFT"></DIV> <div> <IMG SRC="0d44d0c0.gif" border=0 width="589" height="12" ALIGN="BOTTOM" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0"></div> <bR> <div> <B>          Do you have anything to add?     </B><FONT SIZE="3" COLOR="#FF0000" FACE="Papyrus" ><A HREF="id98.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="OffensiveBuletin Board"><U><B>OffensiveBuletin Board</B></U></A></FONT></div> <bR> <div> <FONT SIZE="3" COLOR="#0099FF" FACE="Papyrus" ><B>         </B></FONT><A HREF="comments.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="Contact Us"><U><B>Contact Us</B></U></A></div> <bR> <bR> <div> <FONT SIZE="3" COLOR="#0099FF" FACE="Papyrus" ><B>               To continue </B></FONT><A HREF="id44.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="The Cesspool Theory"><U><B>The Cesspool Theory</B></U></A></div> <bR> <bR> <bR> <div>                          <IMG SRC="0d44d0c0.gif" border=0 width="589" height="12" ALIGN="BOTTOM" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0"></div> <bR> <bR> <bR> <bR> <DIV ALIGN="LEFT"></DIV> <div> <B><IMG SRC="2a883580.gif" border=0 width="643" height="600" ALIGN="BOTTOM" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0"></B></div> <bR> <bR> <bR> </td> </tr></table></body>